As we grow up, friendship means different things to us. When we are in kindergarten, a friend is the kid who shares their blue crayon with you even though it’s their favorite one. In middle school, it’s the person who you hide in the locker room with during P.E. to avoid dodge ball. In high school, it’s the people who you sit in the cafeteria with and make fun of everyone who isn’t lucky enough to be a part of your exclusive group. In every step of your journey, your friends are by your side, regardless of what role they play in your life.
Throughout my life I’ve had the misfortune of having a lot of bad friends as I’m sure many of you can relate. The “friend” who only talks to you when they want something. Or how about that one that only hangs out with you when there is no one else available. Yeah, we’ve all had those experiences and sometimes they can be tough. Sometimes short-lived friendships feel personal. Like maybe you weren’t good enough or maybe you didn’t do the things you should have.
For twenty-one years, I’ve seen hundreds of people walk in and out of my life. It’s been difficult watching some of them walk away and in some cases, walking away myself. Up until a few years ago, I didn’t exactly know why friends are truly important. All it took was meeting the right kind of friends before I realized why I needed them. It is truly amazing to connect with a group of people and know that there are no ulterior motives to your friendship. These are the people who will kneel beside you at your lowest point and help you get back up when you are ready.
So here’s the part where I tell you why we all need friendship. There are probably a hundred reasons why friendship is great but here is the one that stands out to me the most. Friendships with a commitment to one another are fantastic, but when friends commit themselves to both God and each other, the result is amazing. With this commitment, friends can help one another grow in their relationship with God. It means that even through troubled times, you can see that you both rely on God so mistakes are only mistakes. You know that good and bad times come and go and that it truly is a blessing to have someone to laugh with, cry with, and pray with.
Friendships with God at the heart are amazing. It took a long time for me to come to this realization, but I’m glad I finally did. I hope all of you have at least one person that you feel this kind of special connection to. Everyone deserves and needs friends. I know I am extremely grateful for mine.
Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevails against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.